Set Standard for Your Kids

Last week I wrote about setting standards for myself. We need to set standards for our kids.

Some people call these “rules” but they’re not rules. Rules are meant to be followed or a punishment will happen.

Holding a kid to a “standard” is to make sure they are on a course for success.

Here are a few examples:

• Making sure rooms are clean
• Teaching them to put things back where they are found
• Giving them tasks to do around the house to hold the house to the standard
• Uses phrases like “No, sir” or “Yes, ma’am”

These aren’t just rules like “Be home by 10” or “No TV/iPad until 5”.

It’s giving them a code or rubric to follow that keeps them accountable.

By definition a standard is a benchmark or something that is measured against.

By having kids that have a standard to live up to you are instilling them habits and traits that you want them to attain.

There’s no punishment for not living up to the standard unless there is need for punishment.

When I tell my kids, “We need to clean the living room because we are not living up the standard” there’s no punishment unless something else is done that needs punishment then I’m not punishing the lack of living up to the standard, I’m punishing a negative behavior.

When they live up to the standard they get rewarded with praise or activity. It’s a positive reinforcement to be held to a higher level.

Set the standard and watch them achieve greatness.

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